Day 48 of 365 - Social Connection

After spending a full week at home to avoid further sharing my cold, I ventured out again this morning.  I actually did not mind having a quiet week mostly to myself.  By nature, I'm more introverted than extroverted, so I can usually find enough ways to fill my days.  And, there has been some social connection to others via email and social media.  But, it's not the same as seeing people in person.

The classes I attend are not impersonal situations where people just show up for an activity and leave. They are places where I have made several friends whom I look forward to seeing on a regular basis. Sometimes I take this direct connection for granted, but, when I have had a break from it and return I am reminded just how important it is.

To be able to give and receive a hug, make eye contact during conversations, share the nuances of humor in language can only happen in person.  Then there is just the shared energy in the space we create together as a group, which is also special.

We do not have to search very far to find reports these days of how important social connection is to our longevity.  We are a social species by virtue of being human.  We have a need to connect to others at a genetic and spiritual level.

People who become chronically socially isolated due to health reasons which prevent them from going out really do suffer.  They keenly feel the loss of relationship with others.  Although email, social media, and video chats have some value, they do not replace the energy of that personal meeting.

Sometimes I think that when my husband retires, I might like to move to a smaller community, perhaps more rural, to be closer to rivers and lakes.  This came up again after our little cottage getaway not long ago.  But, as peaceful and serene as that may sound, it would mean starting over again making friends and social connections.  It would not be impossible of course, but it gave me pause.

I have a good social network here.  Mostly it is around the fitness activities I'm involved in.  I realize that could change in the coming years.  I just don't know what kind of physical changes I may experience as I go through my senior years.  But, I'm pretty sure that I do not want to be isolated in a room by myself with only a TV for company, dying of loneliness.

For the time being, I am reminded again of the tremendous value of social interaction and the gift of friendship.  It's so important for our health and vitality.  In this busy upcoming holiday season, make time to connect with those who are isolated from their community.  It could mean a lot.




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